Sibling rivalry: Chapter closed.
I wanted to post this word of encouragement to all you mothers in the blogosphere who wonder if your kids will ever stop fighting: This too shall pass! My youngest two children fought throughout their childhood years. They fought throughout their teen years. And now that my daughter has moved over 800 miles from home to attend college, they actually LIKE and even MISS each other! And yes-sir-ree, I've been documenting the proof every time she comes home for a visit!
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I always tell the story of when my sister left for college. Her freshman year of college, my freshman year of high school...we fought ON THE WAY to dropping her off at school.
When we had to say goodbye I cried and cried and we've been best friends ever since! Praise God!
This is incredibly encouraging to a mom of six rivals! Your pictures made me cry; you are blessed.
This is exactly how me and my older brother were. We annoyed and fought with eachother to no end, but once he moved, I missed him much and now love him even more. The three of us, me and my two brothers, love being together now! It's so fun!
That was exactly what I needed to read today! My two girls are about to drive me CRAZY!!!!
My mother used to be driven to tears from my sister and my fights. We are 2 years apart and until she went to college, we really had little in common and didn't care much for each other. God is so good! As those college years passed and life kept changing, my sister is my best friend, second only to my husband! It is such a blessing to have her in my life and I love her so much! Have hope, moms!
My brother and I are 3 years apart. We fought terribly. But when he went off to college, something changed. As others have commented, we grew closer. When I went off to college, we grew even closer. He is now one of my best friends. It may take a while, many years, but as you said, "this too shall pass..."
VICKY! You are SOO right.
My two kids have been the Gingham Dog and the Cheshire Cat their entire growing up years. I wondered when they would "eat each other up!" Somedays, I would just feel like running away because they would fight over anything.
She is now 17 and he is 14. It's nearly over with. They hug, walk arm-in-arm like your two sometimes, and sit snuggled on the couch during scary movies. Whenever she leaves to go somewhere he always says, "I love you!" Who knew THIS would happen? THANK YOU, LORD! They are becoming best buds. It's not all fun and games but nearly!
I cried when my older sister left for college. Now she, my oldest sister, and I are best friends. They are the ones I call when things are good and bad.
I know it'll be the same for my kids. The next 13+ years will be nothing but conflict, but after that will by peace and joy!
What a blessing that they've come together like they have! Sadly, my sister is Wiccan and I am a Christian saved by grace...I'm praying that some day she will be save and we'll be able to reconcile.
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thank you i need to see and hear that i am not doomed to have "sibling throw down" forever. also thank you for you blog..
Oh, thank you, thank you for that glimmer of hope! There are days when I am sure that my 13 yr old daughter will literally kill her almost-9 year old brother. Or vise versa. I was losing hope...
WOO HOO!!!
1. So thankful for your encouragement.
2. So thankful for the comments that tell me I'm not alone.
They are on their way home from school right now and I feel like I need to get put my striped shirt on, my whistle in my mouth and send them to their respective corners!!
Blessings,
Dori
So great!
Thank you for the encouragement!
Katy
THANK YOU!! My son and daughter are 13 and 11. You can imagine how well the get along (read that with a heavy dose of sarcasm). They're getting along at the moment, but it won't last . . . . .
I pray for their relationship to not be so awful all the time. I'm holding out hope the two of them will be this close one day.
So encouraging!!
Thank you for this post! Sometimes it's almost to much to handle when they constantly bicker back and forth. I needed to be reminded it's only a season. (It's a MUCH longer season than baseball and to me...that is LOOOOOOOONG)
You've restored my faith in hoping one day my boys can be in the same room without fists flying. Boys are so darn physical! However, I'm thinkin' I prefer it to girl drama anyday.
Great pics...
Love you Vicki~
Sweet, sweet pictures! I hope my two kids will always be that close.
I was reading this as my two were having a beanbag
"territory" fight...ugh...
Thanks for the encouragement!
um, so, does this mean we shouldn't try to teach them how to get along? that it all just "works itself out" magically when they get older? This is one of the biggest areas of stress in my life - I feel like as a Christian family we should be different, so I keep trying, and it doesn't work, and so I'm STRESSED! (although I guess Christians are only different when they're being transformed into Christ's likeness, and children aren't doing that unless they have the Spirit present and are submitting to Him....)
Yes!!! There is hope! My kids, a boy and girl, are 12 months apart and they fight like cats and dogs. I figured they always would so this gives me hope that they will get along one day.
I needed to hear that! Thank you for sharing. It hurts my heart that my only 2 don't get along too well. I hope that will change.
Could you write a book about this in your free time? I would love to know things I could do to encourage this end result! My brother and I never got a long as kids and we still don't. So you have obviously done soeme thing right.
I loved those pictures. I always wanted a brother!
Exactly what I needed to hear. my kids are 9 and 6 and the intensity has gradulaly gotten higher over the last 2 years. Your words bring such encouragement to me. God Bless
Whew! I'm glad to know there is hope.
♥
Joy
We must have the most unusual kids in the world....we've had our share of problems individually,but they've never fought! The youngest 2 (18 year old boy, 14 year old girl) adore each other, and my daughter is grieving with us already the day our son will go off to college in the fall. I'm blessed!
I love this! It is so true!
My teens are best friends. All three of them.
They aren't big fighters...but do have the occasional disagreements and little arguments here and there.
Like you have proven....I find them snuggled or hanging all over each other all of the time.
I love it!
I didn't have a close sibling....so it warms my heart to know how much they love each other and really care for one another.
It's awesome!
This is so good to hear! My kids fight and bicker constantly.
thanks for that encouragement
The same thing happened to my two oldest. There were lots of phone calls between them that first year away. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!
miss Vicki, i love this! i am 22 and it reminds me of my brothers...20, 18, 16, and 11! the 16 year old and i fought for-absolute-ever and now we are close as can be...with a run in every now and then for old times sake! :) this was so sweet. thank you for sharing.
::Taylor
I've heard this from a number of women who have children older than mine BUT the pictures seem to really bring me hope! Thanks for sharing! Tell me how to handle the next 7 years before one leaves in your next post, PLEASE!!!!!
My brother is 6 years younger than I. We fought terribly growing up. I feel so guilty for how I treated him. (I was simply modeling the parenting skills--or lack of--that I had experienced from an abusive father). He is now 38 and I am, well, you can do the math, and we are absolutely the best of friends. We talk at least once a day and wish we lived closer to each other.
As for my own precious children, I can honestly say that I don't remember a time that they had serious issues with arguing and fighting. They are 4 yrs apart and my son has always been the protective, supporting older brother to his sister. He's at college now, but thank goodness it's only a 35 minute drive away!
Oh my goodness! I cannot find the words to let you know just how much this has encouraged me. Many blessings to your family.
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