You & Your Girl/Katy, Texas!

I'm finally coming up for air to post some pictures from the Katy, Texas/You & Your Girl event. It was clear from the beginning that this event had been covered in prayer and the moms and girls came with hearts wide open. One highlight of the event was a powerful skit performed by eight students (including my own son) who are a part of my home church's youth group (group pic above). I am planning to post the video of the skit sometime this next week, so be sure to check back -- you'll be glad you did! My husband also came along since Katy is only about a 2 1/2 hour drive from Austin and as an added bonus, my in-laws also showed up! I cannot begin to tell you how special it was to have so many members of my family in the audience. I am truly blessed.

My main message was centered on Proverbs 4:23 which says, "Above all else, guard your heart, for it affects everything you do." As I alluded to in a post last week, God has taught me a few things about my own heart in the process of preparing this message. It has been painful and humbling to invite God to "examine my heart" and show me some areas that are in much-need of improvement.

The week prior to the event, I wrestled with the challenge of stepping up onto the platform and telling the girls to protect their hearts when my own heart feels like it is surrounded by scaffolding, orange cones, and a big "Under Construction" sign. I was comforted by the fact that the message God assigned me to give was as much for me as anyone else in the audience and that it wasn't a requirement that I "have it all together" (as if!) before I delivered it. With His trademark love and patience, He gently reminded me that each of our hearts is under construction during our Christian pilgrimage on this earth and that we are a work in progress. Thank you to those of you who have been praying for me -- I felt it and am extremely grateful.

Enjoy the pictures! Next up on our tour: You & Your Girl/Elizabethtown, KY on April 18th! I can't wait to meet the girls and moms and see what God has in store!

Sibling rivalry: Chapter closed.

I wanted to post this word of encouragement to all you mothers in the blogosphere who wonder if your kids will ever stop fighting: This too shall pass! My youngest two children fought throughout their childhood years. They fought throughout their teen years. And now that my daughter has moved over 800 miles from home to attend college, they actually LIKE and even MISS each other! And yes-sir-ree, I've been documenting the proof every time she comes home for a visit!

Teaching our daughters to have zero-tolerance for abuse

I have received quite a few emails from concerned parents who wish to address the Chris Brown/Rihanna scandal with their daughters, so I've chosen to make it our Virtue Alert topic for this week. Just to refresh your memory, Brown, 19, punched Rihanna, 21, repeatedly in the face, choked her and threatened to kill her on February 8th. The abused singer has since shockingly agreed to take him back. But perhaps, most disturbing, were the results from a survey of Boston youths who were asked to weigh in on the question of who is to blame for the abuse. You would certainly think that answer would be a no-brainer with 100% lining up against Chris Brown, but such was not the case. Here is an excerpt from the article:

Hip-hop star Chris Brown’s arrest for allegedly beating singer Rihanna has sparked outrage in the media for weeks, but a survey conducted by the Boston Public Health Commission found almost half of Hub teens think she is to blame for the assault.

Of the 200 Boston youths (ages 12 to 19) surveyed last month, 51 percent said Chris Brown was responsible for the incident, 46 percent said Rihanna was responsible and 52 percent said both were to blame; 52 percent said the media was treating Brown unfairly; 44 percent said fighting was a normal part of a relationship; and a “significant” number said “Rihanna was destroying Chris Brown’s career.” Women blamed Rihanna as much as men did.

“Somehow young people have gotten the message that this is just part of a relationship,” said anti-violence advocate Deborah Collins-Gousby. (To read the article in its entirety, click here.)

I addressed the topic of dating abuse in my first edition of TeenVirtue. Below, is an excerpt that may be helpful when it comes to addressing the topic with your daughters. The original article addressed some other warning signs besides those in the abuse category that signal a "loser alert," but for the purpose of brevity, I've only included the ones pertaining to the topic at hand.

Caution: Loser alert!

Wouldn’t it be great if the guy you liked came with a warning label, pointing out his serious flaws? Just as many people decide not to smoke based on the clear warning label that doing so may cause cancer, girls could decide up front whether or not dating certain guys pose a serious risk to their physical, emotional, or spiritual health. Of course, some girls are so blinded by love (or what they perceive to be love) that they would find a way to justify just about anything from “anger management issues may lead to abuse” to “you will never measure up to his ex-girlfriend.”

Over the years of doing events for young women and women, I have listened to many sad stories from countless high school and college girls, not to mention, adult women about the “loser” they are dating, dated at one point, or in some cases, ended up marrying. In most cases, there were clear-cut warning signs that had they just seen them on the front end before entering the relationship; it may have saved them the heartache they were experiencing in the present. And before you mistakenly assume that Christian guys can’t fall into the loser category, let me assure you that they can.

In every case, the biggest mistake that the girls and women made was in making the assumption that they could somehow change the glaring faults of the guy in question. Of course, in the end, they discovered the hard way that only God can change a willing heart. So what are the warning signs of a loser in the making? I will list the most serious character flaws below. Some will be obvious from the outset, while others may not become apparent until the relationship has progressed. They are serious enough that should you notice them in a guy you are considering dating; put the brakes on and put it in reverse. Don’t even think about moving forward. If you are dating a guy and he exhibits any of the character flaws below as the relationship progresses, terminate the relationship at once. Believe me when I say that these character flaws will likely produce devastating fallout in the years to come should you continue in the relationship.

1. A desire to control or manipulate.

They are the kind who worm their way into homes and gain control over weak-willed women, who are loaded down with sins and are swayed by all kinds of evil desires, always learning but never able to acknowledge the truth. (2 Tim 3:6-7 NIV)

Flee fast from the guy who seeks to control you through manipulation and mind games. Do not consider it flattery to be the center of someone’s life. The center of our lives should always be Christ. I dated a guy in college who was overly jealousy of any guy who would talk to me. At first, I thought it was endearing and cute, but after a few months, it got out of hand. He became suspicious of my every move and made ridiculous accusations, always assuming I was steps shy of betraying him.

When will girls realize that jealousy and control are not flattering? The irony is that some girls assume that if a guy is infatuated with them, it is a good sign and proves they have some powerful force over a guy that leaves him crazy with obsession. In truth, this guy is not infatuated with the girl—he is infatuated with the idea of controlling the girl. A guy will only seek to control someone he perceives to be a willing party. Girls who come out of this type of relationship suffer from a loss of worth and esteem. Jealousy, control, obsession, and manipulation are common forms of emotional abuse.

2. A tendency to become easily angered or violent.
A hot-tempered person starts fights and gets into all kinds of sin. (Prov 29:22 NLT)

When I finally ended the relationship with the guy I dated during my college years who was controlling and manipulative, he reacted by putting his fist through the door in my apartment. I was fortunate that he didn’t hurt me, and in hindsight, losing my deposit was a small price to pay when you consider the results other girls have incurred in abusive relationships. My instincts proved right when in the months to follow, he stalked me and would occasionally call and make threats to hurt any guy he saw me with in the future. It got so bad, that my parents ended up moving me out of my apartment before the lease was up and into a condo complex with a gated entry and high level of security.

I was fortunate that he finally grabbed a clue and left me alone, but it took me months to recover from the emotional damage. Some girls are not so lucky. One girl made the headlines in Austin, Texas when she was murdered by her ex-boyfriend after he became enraged when she broke up with him. They started off as the “cute couple” at their high school. She was a cheerleader and he was a football player and they seemed the perfect match to many. But it didn’t take long for his true nature to emerge. The warning signs were all there. Her friends and family repeatedly warned her about his attempts to control her and his jealous tendencies. They told her that they worried it might eventually escalate to physical abuse. Unfortunately, it escalated to death. Why did she ignore the obvious warning signs and the repeated warnings from her friends and family? We may never know, but my guess is, she somehow, justified his behavior because she rationalized that his obsession with her was a sign of his love. Love does not seek to control. Love does not harm. Love does not result in murder.

In summary, do not take any chances with a guy who has shown warning signs of being abusive, even if he is a Christian and acknowledges the problem. With a willing heart that is broken and repentant, change is possible, but it will take time and effort. DO NOT stick around for the healing process. In many cases, the best alternative is to cut all ties and run fast and far from this type of guy. And should you have the slightest attraction to such a guy, examine your heart carefully and ask God to help you address the insecurities that are at the root of the attraction. If you don't take this step, you could find yourself experiencing a world of hurt on down the road, literally.

While I don't always line up with Oprah's opinions on certain topics, I think she hit the nail on the head with a statement she made on a show that aired shortly after the Chris Brown/Rihanna scandal that addressed the topic of abuse in relationships.

"If you go back to a man who hit you, you don't think you're worthy of being with a man who won't."

Savior please, keep saving me

Every now and then, a song comes along that perfectly describes where I am in my Christian journey. The song above fits that category and speaks to where I am in a more eloquent manner than I ever could ever hope to express on my own. Sometimes, I struggle with how much I can share on this blog about my own personal struggles in the Christian race. I don't want to risk purging too much information, but on the other hand, I've never been one to play the "pretender game." You know, the one where you paint a smile on your face, in spite of a monster storm brewing in your heart and pretend like everything is peachy-Christian-keen? Yeah, that game. So that said, can I just be honest with you for a minute? I have been walking through a pretty difficult trial as of late. Some days, I am strong in the pursuit to stay the course, while other days, not so much. Today, is a "not so much" kind of day.

Even those of us who write the Christian books and speak at the Christian events, hit hurdles in the race course from time to time. And sometimes, just like you, we don't clear a hurdle and find ourselves lying flat on the course with scraped elbows and gravel embedded in our palms and knees. Some hurdles appear out of nowhere and are beyond our control, while others, we drag onto the course ourselves. Regardless of how they got there, if you stumble and fall, the outcome is the same -- you need a helping hand. If I've learned anything over the years, it's how to get back up after stumbling in this Christian race. I know the drill. I've been here before.

And on that note, I covet your prayers. I have an event this weekend where I am scheduled to step up on the platform and deliver God's message to a sold-out crowd of 1100 fellow runners in the Christian race. The hurdles I face are no coincidence -- I know that. The timing is no accident -- I know that. I have no doubt that I am bringing the exact messages God has commissioned me to give and thus, the struggle should come as no surprise. I am honored and humbled beyond belief at the mere thought that God allows me to play any part in presenting His truth to even one, much less 1100 listening pairs of ears. Most importantly, I am more than aware that the messages I am giving this weekend are meant as much for me as anyone else sitting in the audience.

Savior, please, help me stand.
I fall so hard, I fade so fast.
Will You begin right where I end?
And be the God of all I am?

I'm not sure if this song speaks to where you are in this journey, but I'm posting it in the sheer chance that someone else besides just little ol' me needs to hear these words of encouragement. I had a clue it was meant for me when God made sure they played it twice on the radio this morning and then to top it off, He appointed a Facebook friend to "coincidentally" send me a link to the above video in the moments that followed. You know, just in case I somehow, happened to miss the first two clues. Isn't that just like God to show up at my moment of need, bandage my scrapes, and point me toward the finish?

The devaluation of marriage continues...

According to a recent report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention's National Center for Health Statistics:

The birth rate for teenage girls rose 5 percent between 2005 and 2007, according to the report.

The previously reported increase in 2006 ended 14 straight years of declines. The rate rose again in 2007 by 1 percent over the prior year to 42.5 births per 1,000 girls aged 15-19.

But wait, that's not all. I literally gasped when I read this finding:

A record 39.7 percent of babies in 2007 were born to unmarried women, including 71.6 percent of black babies and 51.3 percent of Hispanic babies, the report found. (You can read the entire article by clicking here.)

Note that more than three-quarters of these women were 20 or older. Stop for a minute and allow the percentage numbers above to sink in. Now, take a deep breath, sigh heavily, and get ready for a dose of reality. Our children are growing up in a culture that glamorizes single motherhood, minimizes the role fathers play in the lives of their children, and overall devalues God's standard for marriage. One can only imagine the trickle down effect this trend will have on a generation of children where nearly half will not know the joy of being raised in an intact, married household. Aside from the financial burden this will place on taxpayers, it will have devastating emotional and spiritual consequences, as well. The nuclear family, as we know it, is on the endangered list and nearing extinction with each passing year.

Recognizing this disturbing trend, I addressed the devaluation of marriage as a major conversation in my book, 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter. Below is an excerpt from the book that highlights information about marriage that you will not hear the media reporting:

When was the last time you heard the media address the overwhelming and consistent findings by such reputable sources as the Journal of Marriage and the Family and the American Journal of Sociology that “married persons, both men and women, are on average considerably better off than all categories of unmarried persons (never married, divorced, separated, and widowed) in terms of happiness, satisfaction, physical health, longevity, and most aspects of emotional health.?” Given that God created marriage, should it really come as a surprise that marriage is, in fact, good for you?

Mothers, it’s up to us to extol the benefits of marriage to our daughters as a God-ordained union that can bring much happiness and, most importantly, honor to Him. The National Marriage Project states that the burden of changing attitudes about marriage rests with parents. “Contrary to the popular notion that the media is chiefly responsible for young people’s attitudes about mating and marriage, available evidence strongly suggests that young people get many of their ideas and models of marriage from parents and the parental generation.” That’s the good news. The bad news is that the same study also found that “many parents have had almost nothing good to say about marriage and often say nothing at all,” claiming the negativism and/or silence could be due to “the parental generation’s own marital problems and failures.”

Further, when polling young people about their attitudes regarding marriage, many in the study have unfortunately grown up with unhappily married or divorced parents. They have no baseline for determining what a healthy marriage even looks like and have therefore been left with a tainted picture. Some even described a good marriage as “the opposite of my parents.” Moreover, a number of participants in the study said they received “no advice” or “mainly negative advice” about marriage from their “parents and relatives.” Reading that last statement should cause a collective shudder among us all.

In my book, I go on to outline the need for new PR campaign for marriage. The sobering truth is that our children will get most of their ideals regarding marriage from us. Do your children know that you value marriage? Have you talked with them about the benefits of marriage? Do they understand God's purpose for marriage? Are they aware that teen pregnancy and single-motherhood is anything-but-glamorous?

Or how about this: Will your children grow up to be among the 70% of couples who opt to live together outside of marriage? If so, are they aware that cohabitation actually increases the risk that the relationship will break up before marriage? In fact, a study by the National Marriage Project found that those who live together before marriage have higher separation and divorce rates and regardless of whether they go on to marry their cohabitation partner or someone else, they are more likely to have extramarital affairs.

Another large-scale national study found that married people have both more and better sex than do their unmarried counterparts. Not only do they have sex more often, but they enjoy it more, both physically and emotionally. We need to make sure our youth are fully aware of the risks before they leave the nest and buy into the lies of the culture. Don't assume that your child is exempt from buying into this lie by default of being raised in a Christian home. I am floored by the number of young adults who grew up in the church, yet shack up before marriage and shrug it off to "the changing times." (I address this trend in more depth in my book and offer specific talking points for mothers when discussing this topic with their daughters.)

It's time to start talking up the institution of marriage with our children and make sure they are crystal clear on the fallout that can come when we attempt to write our own rules to the game and ignore God's standards. Our children need to know that building a healthy and happy marriage is hard work, but well worth the effort. Pure and simple: They need to know that those who play by God's rules, are the real winners in the end.

This little boy gets his driver's license today!

Can someone please stop the hands of time? The baby is SIXTEEN -- say it isn't so!

Happy Birthday, Hayden Kyle!

This is way better than bringing in the groceries!

My youngest child, Hayden (aka: the baby), will turn 16 this coming Monday. Needless to say, we have spent the last several weeks shopping for a reasonably priced (and safe) used car. He test drove one on Monday that he fell in love with, but it was a tad over our budget. Hayden agreed to kick in some money from his savings, but by the time we called on Tuesday, the owner had another potential buyer interested in the car. We told Hayden it wasn't looking good and not to get his hopes up. We were notified Wednesday morning that the other buyer couldn't pull their financing together and without telling Hayden, we bought the car yesterday afternoon while he was at school.

Keith picked him up after school and when he pulled into the driveway, I was down the street waiting in the car we bought him for the signal. (We had hidden my car). He thought I was at the grocery store, so I pulled into the driveway and called Keith's cellphone (as per the plan) and asked them to come out and help me bring in the groceries (which didn't exist!). I can't believe it, but we pulled off the surprise! Talk about a happy boy! It was bittersweet to say the least.

I'm trying to prepare myself for the moment he walks out the door with his keys for the first time. Even though I've had some practice, that moment is like a sucker punch...and a signal to step up your prayers!

Barbie turns fifty with nary a wrinkle or dimple of cellulite

Happy 50th birthday, Barbie! I wonder if Mattel will be releasing a celebratory "Hot Flash Barbie" complete with a plastic AARP card and miniature-sized Spanx to cover up her burgeoning muffin top belly. We can only hope, right? Should that happen, I will be among the first in line to make peace with our plastic friend (nemesis?). We will become best friends, drink Starbucks nonfat vanilla lattes together and discuss the woes of spider veins and those ever-increasing pesky sunspots that are popping up as a result of one-too-many poolside tanning sessions in the years of our youth. I can't imagine why we would have sun spots after slathering our bodies with a homemade tanning concoction of baby oil and iodine and lying on a silvery-looking tanning mat that sizzled us to perfection like bacon in a skillet of hot oil, can you? (Wow, after typing that last sentence, I kind of want to take a break here and call my Dermatologist and schedule a check-up.)

I was made aware of Barbie's 50th birthday while reading an article this morning on washingtonpost.com in the "Eat, Drink and Be Healthy" column. The author included the above image (created by an anti-obesity group, adsoftheworld.com) as a representation of what Barbie might look like if she dined on the standard junk food diet of the average American.

As someone who has poked fun over the years at Barb, I've questioned at times, whether or not playing with Barbie has actually contributed to poor body image issues among our young women. I confessed in one of my books that as a little girl, I never longed for her unrealistic figure. I struggled more with an intense jealousy over her closet full of cool clothes, zillion-quadrillion pairs of stilettos, the ornate Barbie mansion, and that racy pink Corvette. The girl had it going on. Then you add that plastic hottie, Ken to the mix and yeah, who wouldn't want to be her? Amazingly, the article above supports my hypothesis that most girls are able to separate Barbie's unrealistic body proportions from reality. Below is an excerpt of the article with an interesting (and humbling) finding about what (and who) contributes to the influence on a girl's body image issues.

While gobs of copy have been written about Barbie's pernicious influence on women's body images and sense of self-worth, an entirely unscientific poll in the Checkup blog last week put Barbie and her vaunted influence in their place. Of nearly 700 readers responding to the question "Who has most influenced your feelings about your body?" 33 percent cited "images in the media" and 32 percent cited "my mother's comments about my weight and figure." While 14 percent said their mother's comments about her own body exerted the most influence, nary a soul pointed to Barbie. (Click here to read the entire article.)

Yet another reason to pick up a copy of 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and begin having the necessary conversations with our daughters pertaining to body image issues. Let's break the chain of dysfunction and tell our daughters the truth about aging, cellulite, and the importance of maintaining a reasonable and healthy weight range. Let's quit pointing the finger at Barbie and move onto the real source of the problem: The media and MOMS. Ouch. I'm stepping on my own toes, here. I think I'll go reread that section of the book since my daughter is due home next week for Spring Break. It couldn't come at a better time, since we will be spending time at the lake and it's sure to involve swimsuits...

Required viewing for every cellphone-toting teen

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My heart was so heavy when I saw this interview this morning. This death could have been prevented had the parents of all parties involved just taken the time to talk to their teens about the dangers of sexting. It is our responsibility to ensure that we have drilled home the message to our teens regarding the long-term consequences that can occur from sending, receiving, or forwarding "sext" messages.

Nearly half of all teen boys have received such an image -- is your son one of them? Have you had the necessary conversations with your son? Has he perhaps, received an image and passed it onto someone else? Has your daughter sent an inappropriate message or picture? Have you had conversations with your daughter pertaining to the possibility of a ruined reputation and other long-term consequences associated with sexting? Or perhaps, she's the girl who is bad-mouthing another girl who sent such a picture or message to a boyfriend or guy at her school?

Remember, approximately 50% of parents who swear their children are virgins, are naively mistaken. Church kids are not exempt from sexting or bullying. Hardly a week goes by that I don't hear a story from a heart-broken parent who was completely blind-sided when they discovered their sweet "church kid" was having sex or involved in sexting. We all have a responsibility to show this interview to our teens, so we don't receive a wake-up call like the one above.

Let's not be naive. Our child is capable of playing any one of the parts in the sad tale above: The girlfriend who makes one regrettable mistake with far-reaching consequences in an attempt to impress her boyfriend. Or the boyfriend who after the break-up is hurt and wants to punish his ex or, for that matter, just show off the image to his friends. They could play the part of someone who receives the image and forwards it on to others. Or they could play the part of the bully whose cruel words leave a young soul wondering if death is the only way out. Please talk to your teens (and even tweens) about the dangers of sexting...


AS A SIDE NOTE: I will be doing a "Logged On and Tuned Out" event for parents at my home church (in Austin, Texas) on April 28th. More information can be found by clicking here.

Pssst, Moms: Kohl's and Britney Spears are teaming up to dress your daughter!

I could hardly believe this newsflash when I read it on Dr. Laura's blog:

Kohl’s Department Store has signed a deal with Britney Spears for her to “represent” their Juniors clothing line - you know, the line for young girls. Part of this deal is to promote her music and current tour. Parents, here’s a sample of what Kohl’s sees as a great match for your daughter:

“Get Naked”
My body is calling out for you, bad boy
I get the feeling that I just want to be with ya’
Baby, I’m a freak and I don’t really give a damn
I’m crazy as a mother ‘effer’
Bet that on ya man

Get naked…would you mind?
Take it off (I took it off)
Get naked.

Her so-called “Circus” tour is highlighted on YouTube. Ya gotta love the guys in leather thongs and those tassel pasties she sports. Frankly, she makes Madonna’s Virgin tour look downright virginal.

Kohl’s Department Store must know that:
* Her first marriage lasted 55 hours.
* Her second marriage lasted a bit longer
* She posed in the nude for Harper’s Bazaar
* She flashed a naked crotch at photographers getting out of her car
* She has been busted for drug use
* She lost custody of her children because of child endangerment issues
* And on and on….just the role model for our young daughters of today. (Click here to read the rest of Dr. Laura's commentary)

What in the world is Kohl's thinking? Aside from the reasons Dr. Laura highlights in her blog post, Britney Spears is not even relevant to the target audience Kohl's is trying to reach! Most of them are too young to remember the sane and stable Britney Spears and only know of her latest escapades that drew unified cries of preteen and teen "Ewwwww, she's soooooo groooooossssss!" Not to mention, she's sooooo yesterday! If you want to sell clothes to preteens and teens, how about using someone relevant to that audience like Taylor Swift, Selena Gomez, or Demi Lavato? Britney's expiration date for this market was up long ago.

Look, I'm all about giving people a second chance, but Britney is on chance #5237 and not showing any intentions of cleaning up her act. If you have any doubts, consider her song on her new Circus CD entitled, "If U seek Amy." Go ahead and say that real fast and see how it comes out, okay? Let me give you a hint just in case you're still trying to figure out this mystery tongue-twister: "F*CK me."

It certainly begs the question: Who at Kohl's made this ridiculous decision to hire Britney Spears for this campaign? My guess is a board room full of old men who are completely and totally out of touch with reality. Look guys, all you had to do was pick up the receiver on your old rotary dial phone and give your tween and teenage granddaughters a call. If you had run it by them first, you might have been clued in to Britney's irrelevancy to this audience when they mumbled, "Gramp-pa, is she the one who shaved her head bald and doesn't wear panties in public? Cuz yeah, my friends and I feel real sorry for her.... I think I even saw her perfume on sale for 75% off the other day."

Or maybe Kohl's was fully aware of the risk they were taking in hiring Britney and gambling on the old marketing strategy that "there is no such thing as bad press." Quite a gamble if you ask me, especially in this economy where mom and dad are looking for any excuse to cut back on the spending. As Dr. Laura said at the end of her post: "You parents ultimately decide where your children shop and what they buy." Amen, to that, Dr. Laura. The power is with the people. As Christians, one of the most loving things we can do for Ms. Spears is to pray for her, while at the same time, close our wallets. It's time to send a message to both Britney and Kohl's that makes it clear that we will no longer be rewarding bad behavior.

UPDATE: Many of you have requested contact information for Kohl's. After posting the media relations # obtained from their homepage, my Assistant, Shawna was contacted by a Kohl's Customer Correspondence Coordinator with the following note:

Kohl's appreciates and respects the forum the Dr. Laura radio show provides the public to voice their opinion.

In regards to your recent call-to-action involving Britney Spears and the Candie's brand partnership, we respectfully ask you remove the Kohl's media relations information from your Web site and replace it with the following:

Jessica Swearingen
cscc.escalated@kohls.com

By doing so, Kohl's will be better able to serve and respond to your audience.

Thank you for your understanding.

Jessica Swearingen
Kohl's Customer Correspondence Coordinator

I have to say that I am quite impressed that Kohl's would take the initiative to provide us with a contact email address. Please be respectful and polite when emailing Jessica. :)